不是每個人都經歷過轟轟烈烈的愛情，就我而言，最深刻的，是那段刻骨銘心、日夜思念的情感記憶。

當時的我，願意傾其所有，只為她開心，只為她喜歡。

那是愛，無需懷疑。

同時，我也渴望從她那裡得到愛的回應。

當愛與被愛交織，情感交融的關係便會留下幸福的印記。

 

人都渴望被愛滋養，但愛無法量化，當它悄然轉化為奢望，便可能膨脹成難以駕馭的慾望。

愛，應該是純粹的付出，當我們不慎濫用愛，便會將「擁有」錯誤的轉化為「佔有」，將一點點小確幸，變成永無止盡的貪求。

在生命旅途中，「想要更多」對我們而言並不陌生，但我們往往低估了自身欲望擴張的速度。

上癮，那便是私心無限擴大的明證。

 

對自己好，不等於自私。自愛與自私之間，存在一條微妙的界線，那是是否侵犯他人界限的分際。

他人的容忍，不代表我們可以毫無節制的越線。

 

自我傷害算不算自私？對那些對自己定義模糊的人、對那些將一切寄託於外在擁有的人而言，答案是肯定的。

當環境讓我們遠離身體、脫離靈性，私心就會在大腦中孳生，變成不斷蠶食本體的慾求。

這樣的私心，可能不知不覺侵犯了身體，也與靈性形成了深刻對立。

當我們在無止境的追求中迷失，在傷害他人之前，往往早已悄悄傷害了自己。

這，正是疾病的隱形開端。

 

觀察各種業務行為就會發現，許多自詡「為顧客著想」的行銷手法，實際上只是將客戶不需要的東西強行推入他們的口袋。

這些銷售員被訓練成的思維模式，往往是如何把顧客口袋裡的錢變成自己的收入。

當獲利在私心的驅動下一再擴張，癮頭與人格同時失控，最終傷人，也傷己。

 

那麼，犒賞自己吃一頓美食算不算自私？

只要這份滿足沒有伴隨罪惡感，只要它不逾越欲望的邊界，它便與自私無關。

沉浸於愛情之中是否自私？當愛成為監控，當擁有變成束縛，那就是自私。

自私之所以可怕，在於它自行定義尺度；傲慢之所以危險，在於它根本不認尺度。

 

我常將品嚐美食的幸福，與被愛的感覺相提並論，卻也深知這份快樂必須設立「停損點」。

因為多巴胺一旦無限釋放，結局往往樂極生悲。

想要太多，往往會失去更多，這是生命不斷重演的警示。

我慶幸透過斷食的洗禮，學會了知足。

當你聽懂身體的語言，你會明白法則早已寫在身體裡。

 

吃與不吃之間，如何拿捏那最巧妙的平衡？

身體會告訴你答案。它不會說謊，也不會婉轉。夠了，就是夠了；多了，就是多了。

從沒有人告訴我們，過度傷害身體是私心放大的結果。失去健康，家人得承擔照顧的重擔；失去生命，更將悲痛留給至親。

追根究柢，源頭正是那一份超越分際的私心。

 

「少吃」不難懂，「不吃」卻難以領悟，差異在於私心的拿捏。

那些抗拒「不吃」的人，其實是在迴避身體的訊號。

站在推廣者的講台上，我原本沒有打算談私心，但來自人們的行為和反應，卻讓我看見滿滿的啟示，也讓我反觀自身的內心。

 

在「吃」的世界中，行銷「不吃」本身就矛盾。只要私心滲入，就會引發混亂。

一旦出發點被私心占據，市場不會出現，即使出現，也無法長久。

這份工作的難處，不在於學習者是否接受，而在於推廣者能否誠實評量自己。

推廣者的「暫停鍵」，必須放在肉眼可見的地方，時時自省。

 

自律養生，是一門生意人看不懂的生意。

它不是推出讓人消費的產品，而是在客戶內心劃定一個私心的有限版圖，讓「愛自己」成為最低學分。

 

容我摘錄珮貞的一段話：「『自律養生』這群人磁場共振頻率愈來愈強，像布農族的八部合音，各聲部都不同，但共振時直達天聽！」

這正是我人生座右銘「做該做的事」的體現，各自獨立，卻也彼此扶持，靈魂和諧共鳴。

 

（地球提供滿足所有人需求的資源，不是所有人貪慾的需求。）

 

The Boundary of Self-Interest

Not everyone experiences a grand, passionate love. For me, the most unforgettable was that intense, soul-stirring memory that lingered day and night.
At the time, I was willing to give everything, just to make her happy, just to see her smile.
That was love—no doubt about it.
And at the same time, I longed to be loved in return.
When love and being loved intertwine, the relationship leaves behind a beautiful mark of happiness.

We all yearn to be nourished by love. But love cannot be measured. Once it quietly shifts into longing, it can easily swell into an unmanageable desire.
Love should be pure giving. If misused, the desire to “have” can easily morph into the need to “possess.”
A small joy can become an insatiable craving.
Throughout life, the urge to “want more” is familiar to us all—but we often underestimate how quickly our desires can expand.
Addiction is the clearest proof of unchecked self-interest.

To treat yourself well does not mean being selfish.
There is a delicate line between self-love and selfishness, and that line is whether or not one infringes upon another’s boundaries.
Others’ tolerance does not grant us permission to cross the line without restraint.

Is self-harm a form of selfishness?
For those unclear about their own identity, or who invest all meaning in external possessions, the answer is yes.
When the environment disconnects us from our bodies and alienates us from our spirituality, self-interest takes root in the mind and becomes a consuming desire.
Such self-interest may unknowingly violate the body and stand in opposition to the spirit.
In the endless pursuit of more, we often hurt ourselves before we ever hurt others.
This is the hidden beginning of illness.

Look at the world of business, and you’ll find that many so-called “customer-first” marketing strategies are actually attempts to force unnecessary products into people’s lives.
Salespeople are trained to think in terms of how to convert the money in the customer’s pocket into personal profit.
As profit expands under the fuel of self-interest, both craving and character can spiral out of control—harming others and oneself alike.

So, is treating yourself to a good meal an act of selfishness?
As long as the pleasure isn’t tainted by guilt, and doesn’t exceed the boundaries of desire, it’s not selfish.
Is it selfish to be immersed in love?
When love becomes surveillance, and possession becomes a cage—that’s when selfishness begins.
What makes selfishness frightening is that it defines its own scale.
What makes arrogance dangerous is that it sees no scale at all.

I often compare the joy of tasting good food to the feeling of being loved—yet I also understand that this happiness must have a “stop-loss” point.
Because when dopamine is released without limit, pleasure can quickly turn into pain.
Wanting too much often leads to losing even more—life warns us of this again and again.
I’m grateful that through the discipline of fasting, I’ve learned contentment.
Once you understand your body’s language, you’ll realize: the law has long been written into your body.

So how do we find that perfect balance between eating and not eating?
The body will tell you. It doesn’t lie, nor does it hint.
Enough is enough. Too much is too much.

No one ever told us that over-harming the body is the result of unchecked self-interest.
When health is lost, it is the family who bears the burden of care.
When life is lost, it is the loved ones who carry the sorrow.
Ultimately, the root cause lies in that self-interest that crosses the line.

“Eating less” is easy to understand.
But “not eating” is hard to comprehend—because it challenges our self-interest.
Those who resist “not eating” are often avoiding the signals their body is sending.
As I stand on the stage as a promoter of Selfasteam, I hadn’t planned to speak of self-interest.
But the behavior and reactions of people revealed insights to me—and caused me to reflect on my own heart.

In a world of eating, promoting “not eating” is inherently paradoxical.
Once self-interest seeps in, confusion follows.
If the starting point is dominated by self-interest, there will be no market. And if there is, it won’t last.
The real challenge of this work lies not in whether learners accept it—but whether promoters can honestly assess themselves.
The “pause button” for every promoter must be visible, and regularly pressed for reflection.

Selfasteam is a practice that most businesspeople cannot comprehend.
It doesn’t offer products to consume.
Instead, it draws a boundary within the client’s heart—a limited territory for self-interest—allowing “loving oneself” to become the fundamental credit earned.

Let me quote Elice:
“The frequency of resonance among the Selfasteam tribe grows stronger and stronger. Like the Bunun tribe’s eight-part polyphony—each part unique, yet together they reach heaven’s ears!”

This perfectly reflects my personal motto: “Do what must be done.”
We stand alone, and yet support one another—our souls resonating in harmony.