與生病者對談，長久以來是我工作的一部分。我習慣將他們的病程與故事，記錄在自己的思考資料庫中。

這個人真的生病了嗎？如果是，那麼病從何而起？他最根本的病，又是什麼？

若你擁有邏輯思考的能力，會發現最值得深究的問題，不是疾病的表象，而是疾病的定義本身。

病，是人下的定義；那麼，定義「病」的人是否帶有偏見？這個定義本身，會不會其實就出了錯？

是否有可能，生病的不是那個人，而是整個社會？病的根源，不在個體，而在人類整體的心性。

 

自從我改變觀看疾病的視角，許多議題便悄然轉向。

我經常停留在那個現代人最嚮往的空間裡，你或許不願承認你喜歡去那裡，但事實是，那個地方正提供你滿滿的安全感。

我要記錄的是一種顛覆性觀察：許多被醫生告知「有病」的人，其實根本沒有病；而那些負責處理疾病的專業體系，才是最值得檢視的「病灶」。

我並非在指責某些人「生病了」，而是在說：觀念創造了疾病。

生病，往往源自於一種意識上的強烈暗示，是觀念上的定錨。

 

「有病」與「沒病」，是正向與負向的兩種意識狀態。

信任自己身體的人，會朝著強化免疫系統的方向前進；而不信任身體的人，則持續創造出削弱免疫力的生活環境。

不信任自己身體的現象，已成為一種集體習性。

這世界缺乏信任身體的教育，也沒有傳承這種信念的文化。

社會要求我們信任「定義疾病」的權威，而非信任自己。

而不信任自己的背後，藏著更深的黑洞：那是人類對「自我存在」的錯誤定義。

我們所處的，是一個不教人愛自己的環境、一個缺乏身教的社會。

 

我如何領悟「不愛自己」的現象？因為我曾真實走過那段不愛自己的旅程，也因此領悟周遭完全沒有教人「愛自己」的教育。

從許多諮詢者身上，我歸納出「不愛自己」的具體證據。他們不曾問自己真正的問題，只關心自己愛的人出了什麼問題。

她們大多是女性。這並不是說只有女性不愛自己，而是這個現象，在女性身上特別明顯與頻繁的呈現出來。

嚴格來說，不愛自己並不分性別。我們都需要在生命旅途中，透過事件或他人提醒，去領悟「愛自己」的真理。

 

不愛自己的人，可能非常孝順父母，熱烈談戀愛，無比疼愛子女。

但不愛自己的標誌性行為，是不重視睡眠、長期堆積負面情緒、體內累積過量毒素，以及過度仰賴藥物處理身體症狀。

統整各種致病因素後我發現，幾乎所有疾病的根源，都與「不愛自己」密切相關。

而愛自己，最顯著的特質是：願意做自己喜歡的事，珍惜生命，不做傷害身體的事。

愛自己的人，身心靈融合一致，尊重每一次生命的安排，也擁有強大而穩定的人際支持系統。

 

即使我們身處一個普遍不愛自己的社會，愛自己，只需要一個簡單的轉念。

每個人都走在從「不認識自己」到「認識自己」的單行道上，也都該學會從過往不愛自己的歷史中掙脫出來，成為真正愛自己的人。

不認識自己、不認同自己、不接受自己，便無從愛起。

練習愛自己，從修正自己開始；從傾聽身體開始；從直覺與感受中，重新與完整的自己相遇。

 

為什麼人們不願意修正自己？

因為他們總是看見別人的問題，卻看不見自己的；習慣干涉他人，卻不願處理自己。

我曾走過那段對生命感到茫然的時期，那是一個強烈的轉捩點，我意識到自己必須改變，開始領悟「反求諸己」的深意。

生命必須由自己安排，而不是任他人擺佈。

從那一刻起，我開始接收到宇宙對我的回應，也從那一刻起，我的存在有了明確的價值。

願意接軌，就能啟動蛻變；願意珍惜，就能走向圓滿；而當你真正學會愛自己，生命便會送來天使。

 

不生病，從愛自己開始。

遠離困頓，也從愛自己開始。

 

（如果你具備愛的能力，先愛你自己。）

 

The Illness of Not Loving Oneself

Engaging in conversations with those who are ill has long been a part of my work. I’ve grown accustomed to documenting their illness trajectories and personal stories in my mental archive.

Is this person truly sick? If so, where did the illness begin? What is the root of their condition?

If you’re capable of logical thinking, you’ll realize that the most crucial question is not the appearance of the illness, but the very definition of illness itself. Illness is a human construct—so what if those who define it carry biases? What if the definition itself is flawed?

Is it possible that the sick one is not the individual, but society as a whole? That the real affliction lies in the collective psyche of humanity?

Ever since I changed my perspective on illness, many of my views have quietly shifted.
I often find myself dwelling on a space modern people are drawn to. You may not want to admit you like being there, but the truth is—it gives you a profound sense of security.

What I must record is a disruptive observation: many people who are told by doctors that they are ill, are not truly ill at all. The true pathology lies within the systems that claim to treat illness.

I’m not accusing certain individuals of being sick; rather, I’m suggesting that ideas create illness.
Illness often stems from a deeply embedded mental suggestion—a conceptual anchor.

“Being sick” and “being well” are not merely physical states, but directions of consciousness: one passive and negative, the other active and positive.
Those who trust their bodies move toward strengthening their immune systems.
Those who distrust their bodies continually create environments that suppress it.

This distrust in the body has become a collective habit.
Our world lacks education that nurtures self-trust. It lacks a culture that passes down faith in our own bodies. Society teaches us to trust the authorities who define disease, rather than ourselves.

And beneath that distrust lies an even deeper void: humanity’s mistaken definition of existence itself.
We live in a world that does not teach people how to love themselves—a society void of such examples.

How did I come to understand the phenomenon of not loving oneself? Because I once lived through it. And because I realized that the environment around me had offered no education in self-love.

From numerous consultations, I gathered clear evidence of this self-neglect.
These individuals rarely ask questions about themselves; instead, they only worry about the ones they love.

Most of them are women. Not that only women suffer from this—rather, the performance of “not loving oneself” is particularly visible and frequent among them.

To be clear, not loving oneself is not gender-specific.
All of us, at some point in life, must come to understand the truth of self-love—whether through awakening or experience.

A person who doesn’t love themselves might still be dutiful to parents, fall madly in love, or be deeply devoted to their children.
But the hallmark behaviors of not loving oneself are: neglecting sleep, accumulating unresolved negative emotions, harboring toxic residues in the body, and habitually resorting to medication for symptoms.

After examining countless root causes of illness, I’ve come to one clear conclusion:
Almost every disease originates from not loving oneself.

On the other hand, the most distinct traits of self-love are: doing what you truly enjoy, cherishing life, and refraining from actions that harm the body.
When mind, body, and spirit are aligned, self-love emerges. Those who love themselves respect the unfolding of life and are supported by strong, stable relationships.

Even in a society that largely discourages self-love, choosing to love oneself takes just one simple shift in perspective.
Each of us walks a solitary path—from not knowing ourselves to knowing ourselves.
Along this road, we must learn to break free from our own histories of self-neglect, and become someone who truly cherishes themselves.

If you don’t know yourself, don’t accept yourself, don’t affirm your own being—how can you possibly love yourself?

To practice self-love, begin with self-correction.
Listen to your body.
Reconnect with your intuition, and experience the fullness of who you are.

Why do people resist self-correction?
Because they always see what’s wrong with others, yet remain blind to their own issues.
They are quick to manage others’ problems but neglect their own.

I, too, have been through that foggy moment in life—a turning point where I became acutely aware that I needed to change.
It was then that I truly grasped the meaning of “turning inward for answers.”

Life must be shaped by your own hands—not handed over to others.

From that moment on, I began receiving the universe’s response to my existence.
From that moment, my life gained a clear sense of purpose.

If you’re willing to align, transformation will follow.
If you choose to cherish life, fulfillment will come.
And when you learn to truly love yourself, life will send angels your way.

Freedom from illness begins with loving yourself.
Freedom from suffering begins the same way.