此刻的你，是否是某個人學習模仿的對象？是否是某種價值的標竿？

若你有子女、有部屬，抑或只是身邊有在乎你的人，那麼，你的一言一行，都已經成為他們觀察與學習的參照。

你是什麼樣的人，便可能潛移默化的形塑出什麼樣的人。

身教，從不是刻意安排的課程，而是日常的點滴示範。

 

我曾經思考睡眠的重要性時，腦中浮現一個熟悉的家庭場景：父母正熬夜追劇，卻催促孩子快點上床睡覺。這樣的情境，就像在傳遞一種訊息：「你們要重視睡眠，而我們不用。」

或許，你也曾在孩子面前與伴侶議論他人的是非，或是在孩子面前批評長輩的不當。

這些表現，孩子都看在眼裡，也默默學會模仿。

不一定要等到多年後，這齣劇就可能在他們身上重演。

 

我曾親眼見過企業主在眾人面前痛罵員工，那氣勢讓人震撼。但令人困惑的是，這類暴怒型領導者往往事業頗有規模，然而，在我心中早已為他們的未來寫下預言。

情緒是一種場域，生病也是。

長期待在充滿怒氣或病氣的環境中，不需要你成為事件主角，那磁場遲早會牽動你的人生走向。

當身邊的人習慣生病，進出醫院變得理所當然，你也會逐漸合理化自己的不健康。

若你身處的工作場域使你長期感到壓抑或痛苦，那是你的身心正告訴你：這裡不適合你。

即使那是醫院，即使那是你的工作，你也必須誠實問自己：這真的是我該長久停留的地方嗎？

 

快樂，必須成為你的身教。

你要讓那些受你影響的人，真實感受到你的快樂。因為，快樂的價值永遠高於健康。

當我領悟人體的卓越運作後，開始反思醫療體系的存在模式。

如果健康對你而言是重要價值，那麼就該遠離醫院，即使那是你的職場。

我在進入成熟階段之前，便憑藉直覺做出了一個關鍵決定：不在醫院工作。

回頭看，那不只是職涯的轉變，更是我對環境與責任的重新定義。

 

做決定要深思，但一旦決定，就要果決。這是成熟的前後順序：前不衝動，後不猶豫。

在我帶領學員與身體對話的過程中，看見過成熟的表現，也熟悉不成熟的語言，兩者的分野，在於勇氣。

逐步領悟，一個人若無勇氣與自己對話，就難以真正認識自己，也不可能真正相信自己。

我把與身體的對話，視為人生中最重要的探索之一。

若人類想要真正翻轉健康的樣貌，這是無可迴避的入口。可惜，多數人拒絕這個機會。

 

我們應該換一個視窗來看待未來，看孩子們未來會成為什麼樣子。

你將發現，他們極可能完整複製來自父母的樣板。

也因此，這個視窗必須回到此刻的你，必須回到你是否正在落實身教。

你拒絕讓自己變好，就是在拒絕孩子變好。

「人各有命」不能是你的藉口，身教，必須是你該履行的人生劇本。

你必須努力守護自己的健康，成為子女的負擔，並非你的本意；成為孩子心中最壞的示範，絕非你的願望。

 

除了快樂，健康也應該成為你的身教。

嚴格來說，所有與修養有關的素質與行為，都必須內化成你生命的一部分。

因為孩子的世界，是以你為基準延伸出來的宇宙。

上述這些話看似簡單易懂，但為何真正做到的人如此稀少？

因為教育早有破口，環境早已崩壞，人性持續失落。

 

這篇文字，寫給所有已經停止進步的父母，也寫給每一位仍有意願改變的家長。

我們沒有本錢蹉跎，也沒有空間怠慢。

能做的，只有努力讓自己活出更加成熟的樣貌。

從現在開始，先確認自己不再懦弱，接著確認自己面對每件事都能深思熟慮，最後，勇敢決策，果敢行動。

 

身教，是每個人共同面對的課題；

而成熟，正是最基本的身教。

 

（成熟，是學會離開那些威脅你內心平靜、自我尊重、價值觀、道德或自我價值的人與情境。）

 

Maturity: The Most Fundamental Form of Role Modeling

At this very moment, are you someone others look up to or seek to emulate? Are you a standard-bearer for a certain set of values?
If you have children, subordinates, or simply people who care about you, then everything you say and do is already serving as a reference for their observation and learning.
Who you are, inevitably shapes who others become, often imperceptibly.
Role modeling is never a deliberate curriculum—it unfolds through the subtle rhythms of everyday life.

I once pondered the importance of sleep and recalled a familiar domestic scene: parents binge-watching dramas late into the night, while urging their children to go to bed early. The implied message? “You need to value sleep—we don’t.”
Perhaps you, too, have criticized others in front of your children, or spoken ill of your elders while your child listened.
These expressions do not go unnoticed; children quietly absorb and replicate them.
And it doesn’t take years for the cycle to repeat—sometimes, the drama replays in their own lives far sooner than expected.

I once witnessed a business owner publicly berating an employee, the intensity of which left everyone stunned. What was puzzling, though, was that these rage-prone leaders often had well-established businesses.
But in my heart, I had already written a prediction for their future.
Emotion is a field; illness, too, has its own field.
If you remain too long in an environment saturated with anger or sickness, you don’t need to be directly involved for that energy to eventually pull your life off course.
When the people around you are constantly unwell and hospital visits become routine, you may begin to normalize your own decline in health.
If your workplace regularly leaves you feeling suppressed or in pain, that’s your body and mind telling you: this place is not for you.
Even if it’s a hospital, even if it’s your job, you must ask yourself honestly: Is this really where I’m meant to stay?

Joy must be part of your role modeling.
You must let those influenced by you feel your genuine happiness—because joy always holds more value than health.
Once I understood the remarkable intelligence of the human body, I began to question the structure of our medical systems.
If health is truly important to you, then distance yourself from hospitals—even if that’s where you work.
Before reaching a mature phase in my life, I made a critical decision based purely on intuition: I would not work in a hospital.
Looking back, that choice was more than a career shift—it was a redefinition of my relationship with environment and responsibility.

Decision-making requires deep reflection, but once a decision is made, it must be carried out with conviction.
This is the order of maturity: deliberate first, act decisively later.
In guiding my students to engage in dialogue with their bodies, I’ve seen what maturity looks like—and I also recognize the language of immaturity.
The line that divides them is courage.
Without the courage to converse with oneself, one can never truly understand oneself, nor fully trust oneself.
I regard the dialogue with the body as one of life’s most essential explorations.
If humanity seeks to transform its relationship with health, this is the inevitable doorway.
Sadly, most people reject the opportunity.

We must change the lens through which we view the future—and consider what kind of individuals our children will become.
You’ll find that they are likely to replicate their parents’ templates with remarkable accuracy.
Therefore, the lens must refocus on you, in this moment.
Are you practicing what you wish to pass on?
Refusing to improve yourself is, essentially, refusing to allow your child to grow.
“Everyone has their own fate” cannot be your excuse—role modeling is the script you are destined to fulfill.
You must protect your own health—not because becoming a burden to your children is your intention, but precisely because it is not.
Becoming their worst example is never your wish.

Beyond joy, health should also be part of your role modeling.
Strictly speaking, every quality and behavior related to inner cultivation must become part of who you are.
Because a child’s world is an entire universe shaped around you.
These words may sound simple, but why are they so rarely embodied?
Because our education system has long been fractured, our environment has deteriorated, and human nature continues to erode.

This piece is written for all parents who have stopped evolving, and for those who still wish to change.
We cannot afford to waste time. We no longer have the luxury of negligence.
All we can do is strive to live with deeper maturity.
Start now.
First, confirm that you are no longer timid.
Next, affirm that you will reflect deeply on every matter.
Finally, choose boldly. Act decisively.

Role modeling is a responsibility we all share.
And maturity is its most fundamental expression.