在這個大千世界的染缸中，身為人，往往一不留神，就生出不勞而獲的念頭。那是一幅看似美麗的藍圖，不再需要努力，只剩下無盡的享樂。

另一種心態則是渴望捷徑，試圖繞過正途，直達目的地。

這樣的想法錯了嗎？若說錯，那是這個渾濁社會帶來的惡果。現代的人際互動與對話中，處處充斥著「快速成功」的誘惑。

然而，世事難以二分對錯，關鍵在於起心動念與結果的承擔。真正的問題根源，往往是那份貪念，以及對善後責任的逃避。

從個人經驗回望，人性總在自我保護與自甘墮落之間擺盪。既然選擇出於自己，那麼所謂的對錯，也變得模糊不清。

每當我們決定做一件事時，心中總會陷入「我是對的」的迷思，問題在於，當結果不如預期，這份自以為是往往會加劇混亂與失控。

 

年幼時，我們學到「學海無涯」、「學無止境」，但一離開學校，卻陷入長期的學習空窗。

進入職場後，工作帶來的成就與回報，逐漸凌駕於學習之上。我們一心追求「擁有」，卻忽略了「理解」；渴望「勝出」，卻遺忘了「真實」。

投身教學之後，同時向其他教師教學學習，我開始關注老師們的動機，不斷自問：「他為什麼這樣說？這樣教的用意何在？」

這些疑問，讓我與團隊中的夥伴展開許多深層的對話，也讓我領悟到，一切關鍵，終歸在於動機的所在。

當教師重視彰顯自己的背景，或講授自己都未能真正理解的內容，我只問一句：「這樣教，意義何在？」

早在國高中時期，我便能察覺哪些老師只是為了領薪水而來；同時期，我也看出父親在開藥時那種一成不變的處方邏輯。

 

我們並非沒有學習的機會，事實上，學習的細節從未缺席，只是我們把注意力放在學習之外的利益與欲望。

一旦動機被「賺錢」、「風光」或「面子」綁架，好比一個人只願展現最好的一面給心儀對象，遲早終將露出真相，迎來幻滅。

《致富心態》有一段話：「為什麼我們總是無法從中學到教訓？常見的原因是，每個人都貪婪，而貪婪正是人性無法抹滅的特質。」

想要減少貪念，最有效的方式是調整動機，讓每件事都能觸動内心。

我誠懇地想對願意聆聽的朋友說一句話：「若我們一生都依賴外在動機行事，最終只會在原地打轉，等同虛度此生。」

回到那句大腦常掛在嘴邊的話：「我是對的」，這不只是意志的堅持，更藏著貪婪與外在認同的勾結。

 

在眾多學員面前提出一個問題：「你覺得自己的健康比較重要，還是家人的健康比較重要？」，我要求只能選一個。

眾人沈思，有人選擇自己，有人選擇家人。這個問題沒有對錯，重點在辨識動機的位置。

務必思考：「我們並沒有權力決定家人的健康」，事實上，每一個人都必須從內心深處覺悟那些傷害自己健康的行為，缺乏學習的基礎，這份領悟難以成形。

外在動機我們無法掌控，就算是銀行裡的一筆巨款，也可能因經濟波動而變得毫無價值，更別說掌握他人的內心世界了。

多少癌症患者糾結於導致自己生病的性格，始終無法轉變，最終仍命喪病魔。這種固執，是屢見不鮮的人性縮影。

常把「我知道」掛在嘴邊的人，往往並不真正知道，因為沒有實踐，就無從領悟，他們的話語只是場面話。

教學的經驗讓我領悟：「與其告訴對方怎麼做，不如引導他思考該怎麼做。」這就如同「與其給他釣竿，不如教他如何打造一支釣竿」。

 

最終，我的思考落在學習者的「心性」與「習性」，許多人止步於接收資訊的階段，甚至刻意拒絕深入學習。

對於那些停留在領悟門前的人，我真心呼籲：「生命寶貴，大家各自努力，不必彼此浪費時間。」

當你願意將動機調整為「從心出發」，眼前的世界將不再是爭功諉過的環境，而是充滿領悟與感動的學習場域。

當「懂」源自於心、「真」生於自我，生命將處處是契機，生活也將處處是驚喜。

 

（生命是最困難的考試，許多人因試圖抄襲他人而失敗，他們不明瞭每個人的考卷都不一樣。）

 

The Habit of Rejecting Insight

In the dye vat of this vast world, being human means we often, unknowingly, give rise to the thought of getting something for nothing—a beautiful illusion where effort is no longer needed, only endless enjoyment remains.
Another mindset is the desire for shortcuts—seeking to bypass the proper process and reach the destination directly.
Is this kind of thinking wrong? If so, it’s the result of a tainted society, where modern conversations and interpersonal exchanges are riddled with the lure of quick success.

Yet, the world is rarely black and white; the key lies in our intentions and our willingness to take responsibility for outcomes. At the root of most problems is greed and the evasion of consequence.
Looking back on personal experience, human nature often swings between self-preservation and self-abandonment. Since the choice is ours, the notion of right and wrong becomes blurred.
Whenever we decide to do something, we fall into the delusion that we are right. But when the outcome disappoints, that self-righteousness often adds confusion and chaos.

As children, we learned that “knowledge is boundless,” that “learning is never-ending,” but once we leave school, we often fall into a long hiatus of learning.
In the workplace, professional achievements and material rewards gradually eclipse the value of learning. We chase after “possessing” while neglecting “understanding”; we crave to “win” while forgetting what is “real.”
Once I entered the world of education and began learning from other teachers, I started to question: “Why does he say this? What is the purpose behind this method?”
These questions led to deep conversations with my colleagues and eventually a clear realization: everything comes down to motivation.
When teachers focus on flaunting their backgrounds or teaching content they don’t fully understand, I simply ask: “What is the point of teaching this way?”
Even during high school, I could tell which teachers were just there for a paycheck—and I also noticed the rigid prescription logic behind my father’s medical practice.

We are never truly short on opportunities to learn. In fact, the details of learning are always present; we simply fix our attention on external rewards and desires.
Once our motivation is hijacked by money, prestige, or pride—it’s like someone who only shows their best side to the person they admire. Sooner or later, the truth emerges, leading to disappointment.
As Morgan Housel wrote in The Psychology of Money: “Why don’t we ever learn the lesson? One common reason is that everyone is greedy, and greed is an inescapable part of human nature.”
To reduce greed, the most effective method is to adjust our motivation—so that everything we do can resonate with the heart.
To those willing to listen, I sincerely say: “If we live our entire lives relying on external motivation, we’ll end up running in circles—wasting this life.”
As for that familiar internal refrain—“I’m right”—it’s not just a matter of willpower; it’s the entanglement of greed and the need for external validation.

I once posed this question to a group of learners: “Which do you think is more important—your own health or your family’s health?” You can only choose one.
Some chose themselves; others chose family. The point isn’t to decide right or wrong, but to examine the origin of motivation.
We must reflect: “We have no power to decide our family’s health.” In truth, every individual must awaken to the behaviors that damage their own health. Without the foundation of learning, such insight is hard to attain.
We cannot control external motivation. Even a fortune in the bank can be rendered worthless by economic turmoil—let alone the inner world of another person.
Countless cancer patients remain trapped in the personality traits that contributed to their illness, unable to change, ultimately succumbing to disease. This kind of stubbornness is a common microcosm of human nature.
Those who often say, “I know,” often do not know—because without practice, there can be no insight. Their words are often just for show.
Through teaching, I’ve come to realize: “Rather than telling others what to do, it’s better to guide them in figuring out how to do it.” Just like it’s better to teach someone how to craft a fishing rod than to merely give them one.

In the end, my focus returns to the mindset and habits of the learner. Many stop at the stage of receiving information, and some even actively avoid deeper learning.
To those who linger outside the threshold of insight, I sincerely urge: “Life is precious. Let’s each do our part and not waste one another’s time.”
When your motivation is realigned to “start from the heart,” the world before you will cease to be a battlefield of blame and become a realm of insight and inspiration.
When understanding comes from the heart, and truth arises from within, life becomes filled with opportunities—and every day, a source of wonder.