回溯求學的那些年,我幾乎忘了自己是否曾懷抱真正的學習熱忱,能記得的,只是努力搞懂老師教的內容,為了應付考試、拿好成績,好向父母交代。如果還有更遠的目標,大概就是順利升學,有朝一日擁有一份體面的工作。

當年的大學聯考,被視為決定前途的命運關卡,人們普遍認為,接受優質教育是邁向理想人生的重要途徑。

我也曾努力,直到進入職場多年後,被一些現實震撼。那些學生時期成績平平、甚至不愛讀書的同學,事業有成,生活幸福美滿。

那時正逢我的人生低谷,一方面,我發現學業表現與人生圓滿並不畫上等號;另一方面,我在那時深深愛上閱讀,從書中找到方向,重新理解學習的真正意義。

從小展現藝術天分的我,除了課外書閱讀,音樂與素描也頗有表現。可是,家人與社會給我的訊息始終是:考上好學校、選個有出路的科系,才是最重要的事。

 

誤導,有時不只是傷害,更可能成為一生的禍害。當我們尚未掌握人生主導權時,最容易被他人誤導。一旦迷失方向,外界的聲音就成了我們的依歸,別人的意見,變成我們不得不接受的決定;而當結果不如所願,給意見的人早已無影無蹤。

關鍵問題在於:我們為何會相信他人的說法?是因為對方言之有物?還是我們內心渴望快速獲得某種利益?抑或,是我們讓大腦長期箝制了內心的聲音?

詐騙成為社會上獨特的謀生方式,除了因為欺騙與被騙者都出現貪婪的念頭外,因為大腦思考主導了所有的人際互動,人的意識嚴重耽誤了心的連結。

這居然是健康和生命議題碰撞在一起送給我的覺悟,我個人循著身體所引導的軌跡一路探尋自己的生命道路,領悟到人腦是禍害之源,人類總是聰明反被聰明誤。

人生有兩條路:一條追求成就,一條追求快樂與感恩。前者是別人看著你,後者是自己守護著自己。

 

身為授課者,即使面對相同主題,也會嘗試從不同的角度切入主題,而非完全照本宣科。

我的核心目標不是讓學員「聽懂」,而是讓他們「想做」。課程的價值,不在老師的知識有多淵博,而在於是否點亮了學員的心。

領悟到,課程不需艱澀難懂,也不必堆砌專業術語,只需一束「光」,那能夠穿透心靈、啟動行動的光。

課後,常有學員說「聽起來很有道理」、「內容很好理解」,但我知道,那還不夠。

表示懂或合理的都沒有後續,因為那是大腦的意見,不是心的看見。

 

從更宏觀的角度來看,人生的每一個面向,都能套用這個問題:你是用腦在學,還是用心在活?兩者通往的是截然不同的終點。

心與腦,是人生最深刻也最奇妙的試煉。試著觀察那些作惡之人,是出於用心,還是用腦過度?你遇過的業務或推銷員,是用真誠互動,還是精於話術?

心會帶你去你「該去」的地方,腦則帶你去你「想去」的地方。心留下的是感受,腦留下的只是足跡。

人際關係可以靠理性,也可以靠情感。經常感到空虛並不斷追逐新目標的人,心其實還在,只是理性壓抑了情感。

這些道理,在閱讀中也能體會。書中的內容也許會遺忘,但啟發與感動卻會留存。腦是閱讀的工具,心才是記憶的容器。

一個人一生能遇到幾位知己?當我深思「用腦」與「用心」的分野,才真正明白知己的意義,也終於懂得如何去愛一個人。那些會撒謊、懷有私心的愛,只是「用腦過當」的產物。

 

真正的愛,是用心給予,是陪伴、是關懷、是同理彼此的情緒。當兩顆心真誠交會,即使最後分開,也是平和的離去;而若讓對錯介入、讓理性佔據分手的理由,那便已不再是愛的結尾,而是腦的干預。

正如我在課堂開始前所說的:「這是一堂用心聽的課,不是用腦學的課。」

懂或不懂不是重點,重點在於,你的心在不在。

當然,聽課、閱讀都需要大腦的輔助,因為大腦是領悟的工具,但真正轉化的關鍵,在於「心」。

心在,學習才會內化;心不在,再多的知識也只是過眼雲煙。

這真是一個攸關一生的課題,我用心記錄,也希望你用心感受。

 

(當一顆敏感的心,遇上過度思考的大腦,人生便不再容易。)

 

Using the Mind vs. Using the Heart

Looking back on my years of schooling, I can hardly recall whether I ever truly felt passionate about learning. What I do remember is the drive to understand whatever the teacher taught—mainly to cope with exams and secure good grades, just to reassure my parents. If there was any long-term goal, it was probably to pass entrance exams smoothly and eventually land a respectable job.

Back then, the university entrance exam was seen as a defining checkpoint for our future. Society generally believed that receiving a quality education was the gateway to an ideal life.

I did work hard. But after years in the workforce, I was shaken by certain realities—many classmates who had mediocre grades, or even disliked studying, had gone on to achieve remarkable success and happiness in life.

This realization struck me during a personal low point. I began to see that academic achievement doesn’t necessarily equate to a fulfilling life. It was also during that time that I fell deeply in love with reading. Through books, I found new direction and came to re-understand what learning really meant.

As a child, I showed signs of artistic talent—not only did I enjoy reading extracurricular books, I also excelled in music and sketching. Yet the message I constantly received from family and society was this: getting into a good school and choosing a “practical” major were the most important things in life.

Misdirection, sometimes, isn’t just harmful—it can become a lifelong trap. When we haven’t yet taken control of our lives, we are especially prone to being misled. Once we lose our way, external voices become our compass. Other people’s opinions turn into decisions we feel obliged to accept. And when outcomes fall short of expectations, those who gave the advice are long gone.

The key question is: why do we trust what others say? Is it because they speak with conviction? Or is it because we subconsciously crave quick gains? Or perhaps it’s because we’ve let the brain suppress the voice of the heart for too long?

Scams have become a peculiar form of survival in society, not just because both scammers and the scammed are driven by greed, but because our brain-led thinking dominates all interpersonal interactions—delaying, even destroying, the heart’s ability to connect.

This became a life-altering revelation for me, born from the intersection of health and life’s deeper questions. I began tracing my life path through bodily intuition, eventually realizing that the human brain can be the source of much misfortune. As the saying goes: “Too clever is too dangerous.”

There are two roads in life: one seeks achievement, the other seeks joy and gratitude. The first is watched by others; the second is watched over by yourself.

As a teacher, even when facing the same subject, I always try to explore it from different perspectives, rather than reciting content word for word.

My core goal is not to help students “understand” but to help them want to act. The value of a lesson lies not in how profound the teacher’s knowledge is, but in whether it lights up the heart of the learner.

I came to understand that a lesson need not be complex or filled with technical jargon—it only needs a beam of light, a light that penetrates the heart and initiates action.

After class, students often tell me, “That made a lot of sense,” or “It was very easy to understand.” But I know—that’s still not enough.

Because when people merely say something makes sense, there’s usually no action that follows. That’s the brain talking, not the heart seeing.

From a broader perspective, this question applies to every facet of life: Are you learning with your mind, or living with your heart? The two paths lead to entirely different destinations.

The heart and the mind form one of life’s deepest, most mysterious tests. Observe those who do harm—is it because they’re following their hearts, or is it the result of overthinking? Think about the salespeople you’ve met—are they connecting with sincerity, or just masters of persuasion?

The heart takes you where you ought to go. The mind takes you where you want to go. What the heart leaves behind is feeling; what the mind leaves behind is just footprints.

Relationships can be driven by logic, or by emotion. When someone constantly feels empty and keeps chasing new goals, their heart is still there—it’s just been suppressed by excessive reasoning.

These truths can also be grasped through reading. You might forget the words in a book, but the inspiration and emotional stirrings will stay with you. The brain is a tool for reading, but the heart is the vessel of memory.

How many true soulmates can one meet in a lifetime? It was only when I deeply contemplated the difference between “using the mind” and “using the heart” that I truly understood what it means to find a kindred spirit—and finally, what it means to love someone.

The kind of love that involves deception and self-interest is merely a product of “excessive brainwork.”

True love is heart-given. It’s about presence, care, and emotional empathy. When two hearts meet in sincerity, even if they part ways in the end, they do so peacefully. But if right and wrong dominate the breakup—if rationality becomes the reason—then it’s no longer love, but interference from the mind.

As I often say before class begins:
“This is a class meant to be listened to with the heart, not studied with the brain.”

Whether you “understand” or not isn’t the point. What matters is: Is your heart present?

Of course, listening and reading require help from the brain—it’s a necessary tool for comprehension. But transformation? That belongs to the heart.

When the heart is present, learning becomes internalized. When the heart is absent, all knowledge becomes fleeting.

This is truly a life-defining lesson. I record it with heart, and I hope you’ll receive it the same way.