《自律養生實踐家之旅281》 愛不是依附(上)
你不能將愛依附在對方的收入與魅力之上,就像你不能將健康寄託在某種產品或藥物上。
愛與健康,在本質上都必須奠基於獨立自主的狀態。當你對愛有了本質性的覺察,你就必須將這份領悟回歸到自己身上。
健康,是你對自己的愛。不健康,是你不夠愛自己。
當愛變得模糊,自己也變得飄渺。好比那目中無人的富人,名片上滿滿的頭銜,工作到退休卻從未真正快樂。
我們看到一個什麼都有的人卻不快樂,看見家財萬貫的人罹患重病,感嘆命運的捉弄,卻不明白,生命的價值從不在金銀財寶,也不在世俗眼光裡的成功或光環。
You cannot base your love on someone’s income or charm, just as you cannot base your health on pills or supplements.
At their core, both love and health require a foundation of independence.
Once you’ve awakened to the essence of love, you must bring that realization back to yourself.
Health is your love for yourself. Ill health is the undeniable evidence that you do not love yourself enough.
When love becomes vague, the self also fades.
Like the wealthy person who sees no one but themselves, the executive with a stack of titles but no joy, the worker who retires only to realize they were never truly happy.
We see people who have everything yet are not happy. We see millionaires struck with serious illness, and we sigh at how fate plays tricks.
But what we fail to realize is this: the value of life has never resided in wealth or prestige, nor in the worldly markers of success and admiration.